We all need to grow up.
We are constantly infantized in this western world. We are constantly having our inner child marketed to. In other words, we can have something for nothing. We don’t have to pay the price that is needed to achieve it.
Guess what? Once you have found out the A-Z to get to your goal you need to do it. You need to accept those rules or change the outcomes.
We all need to grow up.
We are constantly infantized in this western world. We are constantly having our inner child marketed to. In other words we can have something for nothing. That we don’t have to pay the price that is needed to achieve something. Somehow I deserve to have more than I currently have.
It plays into a mindset that we already have to a certain degree going on. I really want this spectacular outcome but I don’t want to do the tasks that are required to get the outcome. But I am also not willing to let go of the outcome. Many of us are sat in frustration. Wanting to be successful, not letting go of the goal but not willing to do what needs to be done in order to become successful. I want to be slim, I want to be healthy, but I don’t want to diet, I don’t want to go to the gym.
Guess what? Once you found out the A-Z needed to get to your goals, you need to do it. You need to accept those rules. Accept the goals or change the outcome. There’s no rule that says you have to be successful in life or super fit, slim, healthy, have amazing relationships. There’s no rule you have to have £1 million car or £10 million house. There are no rules with this stuff, but there are rules to achieve those things. Once you’ve decided you want to achieve those things you’ve got to stick to the rules to achieve them or assume or expect that you’re not going to have that success and then the frustration goes.
I am not here telling you to downgrade your goals. No, because I’m all about making your goals bigger and bigger and ramping things up. However what I will say is once you know what you want, work out what you have to do to achieve it, work out who you need to be. What kind of personality, what attributes you need to have as a person to be the person that gets to have this success. To own it, to keep it. Once you know what that is, you know what needs to be done. You make a decision. You do it and gets to have it or you don’t do it and you have to let it go.
Don’t sit in perpetual tension. I don’t want to do this but I refuse to let go of the outcome. If you do that your wide-open for charlatans to market get rich quick campaigns to you. Lose weight and still eat cake. That’s what the child wants. I am not trying to insult you. I fall foul of this, everyone I know falls foul of this. This is it though, we have to be the adult in our life. The person who says ‘if you want this, it comes at this price and if you’re not willing to pay this price then you don’t get to have it’. And that’s okay but you need to accept that’s how it’s going to pan and out. You have to accept that those are the rules.
I am not trying to insult you, but it is time to grow up and be adults. Accept the rules. Accept the actions. Accept what you have to do to achieve those amazing outcomes and do it. Or if you don’t want to eat salads and you don’t want to go to the gym then let go of the goal of having a six pack and running a marathon. It is that simple. Life is easier, life is happier. I am hoping you’re going to stick to the big goals and accept the rules but sometimes in life we have to accept that we’re not going to do that so why am I punishing myself in this perpetual state of tension. Just let it go and put your energy into focusing on something else. That’s my message – grow up. Accept the rules or change your outcomes.
Until next time be successful
About The Author
George Swift - The Mindset Mechanic
George is the Founder of BBB Success Groups and the driving force behind the content, tools and techniques at BBB. Driven by a lifetime of knowing life could be better, George has spent over 20 years understanding how the mind creates the experience we have in this world and how it ultimately determines our success.