Wouldn’t it be great if we could just spend half an hour a day with our children, telling them all the do’s and don’ts for life and then they would go out and just do, or don’t do, what they need to do in order to enjoy life and be successful in life and be happy in life?
If you’re a parent you know this already, you can’t tell your children how they need to be. There’s only one way to get your children to be unbelievably well rounded, well-adjusted, successful human beings – you need to be one first.
You need to be their role model.
Wouldn’t it be great if we could just spend half an hour a day with our children, telling them all the do’s and don’ts for life and then they would go out and just do, or don’t do, what they need to do in order to enjoy life and be successful in life and be happy in life? Wouldn’t it be great if we can continue to life our own life hugely flawed with all our bad habits and our bad attitudes and everything our bad behaviours, but we could tell them what they need to do?
Now if you’re a parent you know this already, you can’t tell your children how they need to be. Education is not a half hour round the dining table telling them about how they should set their goals, and how they should be happy and how they should value themselves and how they should have a great deal of confidence and self-esteem and how they shouldn’t let other people dictate to them what they should do, whatever it might be, whatever your lessons to your family are. It’s not half an hour round the dining table, once, twice or even five times a week.
Your children are learning from what you are doing. What they observe in you, how they see you and what they see you doing is actually a much greater impact to them or is a much greater impact to their learning, way more than what you tell them. You probably know this already, there’s only one way to get your children to be unbelievably well rounded, well-adjusted, successful human beings, you know what it is – you need to be one first. You need to be their role model, children will learn from their mothers and their fathers and their immediate peer group.
If they don’t get to see and experience happiness, success, high levels of self-esteem, don’t expect them to be able to learn it by you sitting at a table and saying you should think highly of yourself, you should be courageous and I want you to go out and be successful and do whatever you want in life, and then go off and lead a shitty, crappy life yourself. It would be great if we didn’t have to change ourselves, that we can somehow embark this amazing knowledge on children, that create perfectly well adjusted children, whilst staying flawed ourselves. You can’t.
So, I’m telling you now if you don’t need any motivation to get off your ass and actually develop yourself as a human being to raise your own levels of expectations out of life for yourself and your family and everything else, then this is the thing that should get you moving, and that is really simply your children will follow your lead and will become who you are and they will do what you do. For most parents, it’s terrifying, we want more for our children then we are already for ourselves If you want more for your child, you need to be more for yourself first I can’t stress this enough, your children are learning from you twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week for the whole of their childhood and they’re still learning from you even when they get into their own adolescence and beyond.
They’re seeing who you’re being and they’re seeing what you’re doing and that is the learning that’s going in and it’s going to trump all the well-meaning, well rounded, good natured education that you are trying to bestow upon them. If you want your children to be happy, successful and fulfilled, you want them to have great relationships, to have great health, to be financially successful, to love life, to have a passion for what they do in life, to have the freedom to choose what they want for themselves, you need to do it for yourself first and foremost, and then you will be able to pass that legacy on.
They will learn from what they see and experience from you, not from what you’re telling them. So, I hope this is a call to action to all you business owners and entrepreneurs with children, if you don’t need anything else to get you off your ass I don’t know what else there is. Your children are going to become you in exactly the same way that you find it so hard not to become your own parents. If you want more for your children, you need to be more for yourself first and foremost. That’s how it works. Be the person you want your child to become. That’s a simple message, a simple moto for you to remember.
Be the person you want your child to become.
As always, until next time be successful.
About The Author
George Swift - The Mindset Mechanic
George is the Founder of BBB Success Groups and the driving force behind the content, tools and techniques at BBB. Driven by a lifetime of knowing life could be better, George has spent over 20 years understanding how the mind creates the experience we have in this world and how it ultimately determines our success.